This overlord, Silence

On Facebook was an uploaded video of an abusive caregiver smacking an old lady in the head. 

I didn’t finish it for its sheer atrocity. It was reported on CNN, and, on Fox News, I think. So I assume, the caregiver was charged. I think I’ll read the full story later.

This reminded me of what a friend of mine posted on her FB feed. Basically, a teller refused transactions to a senior citizen, because he was on the wrong lane. The teller, insisted that he should go to the senior citizen lane.

According to my friend, the incident escalated. I imagine the elder folk would insist on making the transaction of purchasing a damn movie ticket than fall in line again. The teller, according to my friend, started to act out, yelling at the old man. She even called in the security guard to escort the old man out. 

Now friend, she was on the same lane as of the old man. And upon purchasing her ticket, said to the teller, don’t you dare yell at old people.

Points are: Senior citizens deserve the respect they can get from people. It is the culture of the country that its people are so fond of bragging about besides shouting out how intelligent and amazing they are; The senior citizen lane is a privilege, and the teller seems to have mishandled the situation, she’d be lucky if the old man didn’t report to her supervisor and honestly I think she got -away with it – the people of this country is resilient from making formal complaints; And lastly, my friend is a coward.

It is clear the teller is a subservient cretin, incapable of empathy and remorse, and there are people far greater than her. 

My friend, along with anyone else who wanted or had the strong urge to help the old man, are cowards. They could have stepped in and instead they chose not to. My friend, to alleviate her own guilt of silence, posted the incident on Facebook. As if that did any good to the public. The response, of course, were flattering, stuffing “likes” – the illusionary merit for ego – and stating their own opinions of the matter about how villainous the teller is.
What would I have done in her place? Would I have stepped in? I don’t know. It’s a nice thought that I might have. I might have taken a video and then ask for the supervisor. Anyone who has a smartphone has that capacity. But I see that in myself there is a problem as well.

These are trying times that will define what the future of society will be. Being able to stand up for others is a small but significant step that needs nourishing. We can’t always hide behind social media. 

However, there are two other things that might hinder this. The first, people just do not care. Second, social media judgement. It is becoming increasingly common for other people to record videos of any incident and upload them in social media. Some people give the full details and others do not. And there is always a chance for incidents to go viral, damaging people’s reputations or putting their lives at risk. Even with all the details in, the public are quick to pass judgment.

That’s why journalism exists. This is a different topic, so I won’t elaborate any further. 

At this point I no longer know what I’m trying to say. I’m just a little downcast to see how people treat each other. Not just the senior-citizens and the teller/abusive caregiver incidents. Things that we constantly see online: News about another person gunned down under dubious circumstances, news about people being torn from their families – sent back to their home countries, leaving behind their children, and issues about the color of people’s skin, of gender, of intelligence, of age. 

Times like these I wish I were a kid again with the biggest worry was making sure I get grades high enough to please my parents. Changing times. Trying times. And many people are also fighting for it. Raising their own flags of war, to re-define what has been broken down. Perseverance, patience, and resilience. Yep. We’ll need more of those. 

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